In Repair

Relationships, one of the most fundamental things in human culture and society. But in the context of dating it becomes one of the hardest things…..ever. We humans are built for relationships and marriage and finding love. That desire is in us from day 1. But finding the right person is hard. Some would say impossible. Relationships and dating is just so tricky. People by nature, even if they insist they aren’t, are complicated. We have many facets and finding someone who’s facets fit ours, whether the same or different facets isn’t easy. In my opinion there are 5 basic cornerstones of relationships in dating. 1. Trust, if you can’t trust them it all fails, you can’t tell them anything or be assured they won’t cheat or anything. 2. Communication, talking is huge you’ve got to work through the problems and bad times and you’ve got to talk. 3. Compromise, you HAVE to be willing to give of yourself and change and do things you don’t like. Not compromising only leads to friction. 4 Chemistry, cause lets face it, ya gotta get along. And 5. Last but not least God. He has to be there to make it healthy and right.  I know people who’ve been hurt, crushed, destroyed. They’re in a million pieces and they don’t believe that in love or trust or anything, and I don’t blame them. They have no reason to. But without love our world and lives would be lost. The world would be a horrible place to live. It exists, love that is. It HAS to. That head over heels, shoot the moon, I’ve got your back, I would die for you, LOVE. And all too often we get hurt a lot looking for it, we get lost and we find something close to it, and we settle. Saying it’s the best we’re gonna get. But you can’t give up and settle. Sure it can work but all too often it doesn’t. We think because we settled its going to be easy. But its not, its harder. Our culture is so used to things being easy that we don’t understand commitment. Which is what relationships are fundamentally about. From both sides. It takes 2 to compromise and commit. Bottom-line relationships aren’t easy, EVER. They’re hard and they should be. This way the good ones mean something. The one thing that makes it easy is hope. Hope is beginning, the mother of all relationships. Without it life means nothing. Don’t ever lose it. Believe in miracles and in 1 in a millions and wishing on shooting stars. Is it cheesy and dumb? NO. Hope is the spark that starts every great thing. When you’re down and out, and down for the count. Your face is bruised; your eyes are swollen shut. You’re bloody and beaten and you think there’s nothing left, there’s hope, you’ve got to believe it. That deep down you can win, you will win. You won’t let this beat you. You’ve got to get back up and keep fighting for what you need, for what you deserve. Even if you lose you will have learned something and will eventually win. You’ll find the perfect person, the IT person. The one who you’ll look at and no matter what say “wow”. You’ll love them because you choose to. Because you know their faults and short comings. But they’ll mean little in comparison to all the good things. Because that’s what love is, a choice.