In Repair

Patience. Something that for some of us comes easy and for some of us comes hard. For me, my problem with patience is in many areas, but in the theme of this blog; for me its in dating. I want a relationship....too much. So when I get a hint of one, I pounce. As we guys say, I get trigger happy. I either tell her how I feel or i'm so damn close that she figures it out. Patience is important, but it can also be crippling and a guise in which to cloak insecurity. Plus if you wait, you may miss your chance and chances don't always come around a second time. So the hard part is to know when you take your shot and when to wait. So thats my question, when do you take your shot? I'm currently in the process of trying to figure that out. I like a girl but she's happy being friends, and her reason for not wanting to try more is...incomplete. At least from what I can see. I've been asking for advice from my friends, i've gotten really three answers, Wait, take your shot now, and forget about it altogether. First of all forgetting about it altogether and cutting off contact, is not my style. I care too much, and it may hurt me but it's who I am, fundamentally. Plus I don't want to be cold and unfeeling, people like that don't ever really experience things, yes they may have less pain, but they also have less joy. Number two, in the past I have taken my shot, and it hasn't worked out, admittedly it was because I was going about it all wrong. Waiting, that is the new concept that has entered my mind. It's really the most risky of all of them. Because one of two things happens, either things evenutally work out, it may take time, lots of it. Or things end, they move on, and you don't. Things don't change. But really when it comes down to it, what happens is really a coin toss. One coin, two sides. Heads. Tails. Happy. Sad. And you get one toss, maybe you get more than one. But more often than not you don't. That's all we guys really get. I wish I had more to say, something more eloquent, deeper. But I don't so I end this with a question. One toss, the clock's running down, and you're losing ground to the opposing defense. 4th and long, down by a touchdown what do you do?